COUPLES THERAPY
Safety
Closeness
Balance
If you're here reading these words — it means you care.
Whatever you’re going through right now, one thing is clear: if you're seeking support, your relationship still matters to you. And that already means a lot.
Couples therapy offers a space where you can begin to truly hear each other again.
Without interruptions.
Without a battle for who’s right.
And over time — with more calm, more understanding, and more curiosity about one another.
In a safe setting, we take a closer look at what hurts, what’s not working, and what’s been lost between the two of you.
But also we will explore what still connects you — even if it’s just a shadow of what once was.
Sometimes, therapy is the beginning of a new chapter.
Sometimes — a peaceful closing of an old one.
But it’s always an attempt to care for yourself and one another — as much as is possible in this very moment.
When might it be worth considering couples therapy?
When your conversations often end in silence or arguments
When you feel emotionally distant — even though you’re still together
When your relationship has gone through infidelity or another crisis of trust
When it’s difficult to make joint decisions or plan for the future
When one (or both) of you feel that “something’s not right” — but it’s hard to name what
When it’s hard to talk openly about your needs, desires, or emotions
When differences in your communication styles lead to tension and conflict
When you want to strengthen your connection before things get worse
When you’re facing a major life transition (e.g. becoming parents, moving, illness)
When one or both of you are thinking about ending the relationship — but haven’t made a final decision
Couples therapy doesn’t have to be a “last resort.” It can be a conscious decision — an investment in a relationship that matters to you.
When might couples therapy not be the right choice?
While couples therapy can be deeply supportive, there are situations in which it may not be the appropriate form of help. These include, among others:
Domestic violence – If there is physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse in the relationship, joint sessions can reinforce a power imbalance and may not provide a safe space for the victim. In such cases, ensuring safety and seeking individual support is the priority.
Lack of consent from one partner – Couples therapy requires both people to be genuinely and voluntarily engaged in the process. When one partner is pressured into therapy, it often leads to little progress. A basic level of curiosity and willingness to work on the relationship is essential on both sides.
Active addiction – When one partner is actively struggling with addiction (e.g., to alcohol, drugs, or gambling), it may interfere with the ability to engage in meaningful therapeutic work. In these cases, addressing the addiction should come first.
Ongoing affair or double life – Rebuilding trust requires honesty and transparency. If one partner is currently engaged in an affair or emotionally involved elsewhere, it’s difficult to create the foundation needed for effective therapy.
No motivation to continue the relationship – If one person has already made the firm decision to end the relationship and is emotionally closed to change, couples therapy is unlikely to be helpful. In such situations, it may be more appropriate to consider separation-focused sessions — a structured, supportive space for couples who wish to part ways with respect, clarity, and emotional care.
No topic is off-limits in the therapy room
In my practice, there are no forbidden subjects. I work with couples of diverse relational structures — including monogamous, non-monogamous, heterosexual, and queer partnerships. Regardless of your experiences, needs, or the model of your relationship, we will create a space where you can speak freely about whatever matters most to you.
"Closeness begins where pretending ends."
— Brené Brown